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There is a always cynical young man, has encountered a lot of misunderstanding and setback in study, life, work, because of getting others' understanding, have formed in order to guarding and habit of treating others of psychology of hatred gradually. Among constraining gloomy environment, he feels whole world is repelling him, so the days pass heavily, nearly collapse.
In order to relieve boredom one day, he has mounted Tian Mountain of a soldier's attractive scenery. Sit on the mountain, he is not be in the mood for enjoying the quiet and tastefully laid out scenery, thinks about one's own experience these years, the hatred of heart can't help being facing toward the deep and serene mountain valley loudly hollowly to shout as holding the flood of the floodgate: "I hate you! I hate you! I hate you! " An export of, the same echo comes in the mountain valley: "I hate you! I hate you! I hate you! " The more he heard, the more he feels bad, have raised the sound of shouting. He scold terrible echo loud and the longer, disturb so that he is more angrily.
Just after his loud shouts of cursing again, " I love you from coming behind! I love you! I love you! " Sound,he turn one's head it see suddenly,see only nearby shout one Buddhist abbot to him on temple.
Buddhist abbot come up to him with a smile after for a moment, he square to measure, look familiar eye to be kind, a stream of brains tell everything that oneself meets.
Have listened to his telling, the Buddhist abbot says with a smile: "Bell in the morning and drum in the evening how much guest, fame and gain of towns and villages all over the country, does it wake, call boundless sea of bitterness back of the dream by sounds of Buddha symbol. I give 4 sentences to you. First, this has not failed in the world, has not only succeeded temporarily. Second, before changing the world, it was yourself that needed changing. Third, change from determining to begin and determine before taking action. Fourth, it is one's own resolution, but not the environment is determining your destiny. You might as well change one's own habit first, try to face everything around with the friendly psychology, you will have unexpected happiness. "
He half believes, half doubts, the expression is very complicated. The Buddhist abbot has seen through him, then say: " If the world is a wall, like to be the Echo Wall of the world. Just like echo of us just now, you with what kind of psychology speak, it with what kind of tone give you echo. The persons who like appearing like returning to, the good fortune comes to the good fortune. Conduct oneself and deal with matters a lot of trouble to make excessive demands too much to produce yesterday to external world. You love others, others will give you Yuan too; You go to help others, others will help you too. The world is interdynamic, you are loved by several worlds, the world will go back several of yours love. The love is the temporary satisfaction that the people's harvest is far greater than hating bringing. "
Listen to Buddhist abbot his insight, go down the hill happily.
He treats everything around with the positive, healthy, friendly psychology after going back, he, and misunderstanding of colleague, nobody hard on him, he than in the past smooth at work, he finds oneself much happier than before.

In the past, there was a boy with very bad temper. His father gives him a bag of nails, tells him, while losing the temper each time or quarrelling with people, just nail one on the hedge of the courtyard. On first day, it, the boy nailed 37 nails. He learnt to control one's own temper in following a few days, the nail nailed every day has been reduced gradually too. He find control one's own temper, take a easy one to be many nailing in fact. At last one day, he did not nail a nail, he was glad to tell father this.

My father says: " From now on, if you can pull out a nail on this day without losing the temper in one day. "  Day pass by will it be one day one day, finally, nail draw into the light all. My father brings him to edge of the hedge, say to him: " Son, you do very well, but see the nail hole on the hedge, these holes can not resume forever. Quarrel with a person like you, say some unpleasant words, you would leave a wound in his heart, like this nail hole. " Insert a knife in a person's body, pull out, the wound is difficult to heal. No matter how you apologize, the wound is always there. You know, the wound on the body and wound on the soul are both difficult to resume. Your friend is your valuable property, they let you make you braver to one's heart's content. They always listen attentively to your sorrow at any time. When you need them, they will support you, open the heart wide to you. " Tell your friend how you love them, tell all you are regarded as the person of the friend, your action can begin from posting this small story. Have one day, when in the mailbox that this letter gets back to you. You will find you have a very old friend who encloses.

Finally, I want to say: " One of the happiness of the friendship, is to know to whom can unbosome the secret. "  You receive the letter is because in wishing you quietly someone, because you love some people around you. If you say too busy always, can't hop these letter out, always say: " Send again another day. " You will never do this. So, don't look for the excuse, the ones that set aside all worries saw this story that old India came, then determine to make something for your friends, begin from spread and send this letter. As you say: " You are my good friend " Hour, please say out conscientiously. Please look at the other side's eyes when you apologize.

Never laugh at others' dream. Don't determine the nature for a person at will. Slow speak, take fast at the thought.

One day, a hunter caught a bird that can only speak 70 languages.

" have set me free, " This bird says, " I will give you three pieces of sincere advice. "

" tell me first, " The hunter answers, " I swear I will set you free. "

" the sincere advice of first is, " The bird says, " don't regret to do afterwards. "

"The sincere advice of second is: If someone tells you a thing, you think it is the impossible believing by oneself. "

"The sincere advice of the third is: When you can not climb up, don't go to climb strenuously. "

Then the bird says to the hunter: "It's time to let me go. " The hunter has set the bird free in accordance with the speech.

This bird flies and arises, lands on a big tree, shouts to the hunter loudly: "You are very stupid. You have set me free, but you do not know that there is a big priceless pearl in my mouth. It is this pearl that makes me so clever. "

This hunter wants to catch this bird let fly away again very much. He goes to the tree closer and begins to climb the tree. But when he climbed to half, he fell down and broked both legs.

The bird laughs at him and shouts to him: "Idiot! You have forgotten the sincere advice that I told you just now completely. Don't regret after doing a thing if I have told you, but you regret setting me free. I tell you if someone explain to you you regarded as impossibility, don't believe, you believe that there is a very big pearl in the mouth of a bird like me. I tell you if you can not climb up, don't force oneself to climb, but you catch up with me and attempt to get on this big tree, the result falls down and brokes both legs. What this admonition said is you: ' for wise man, a lesson is castigated even deeper 100 times than the fool. ' "

Having finished saying, the bird has flown away.